Friday, November 12, 2021

What if Your Neighbors Were Not The Actual Problem?

Allow yourself to imagine the following scenario: You move into a new neighborhood. Your next door neighbor doesn’t cut his grass as frequently as you think he should. You also don’t like how instead of installing a privacy fence in the backyard, he has allowed the small trees the previous owner of his house planted along the fence line to fully flourish, effectively creating a prettier kind of privacy fence. Imagine that periodically your neighbors have a bonfire in their fire pit throughout the years. And—because you have nothing else to do—you call the fire department. Imagine seeing the fire department pull up, and in each instance, you observe the neighbor and the fireman talking and joking with each other (are they talking and joking about you?). Every time the fireman leaves with a good natured handshake. Imagine you keep gaining weight. Imagine every time you are on the front porch you anxiously look at your neighbor and his sons joyfully living their lives and paying you no mind. But still the grass doesn’t get cut as much as you believe it should, and you take it to the local government several times. And regarding the trees in your neighbor’s yard, you state (on record at a local meeting) ‘I can’t see what they’re doing back there’ as the reason this is cause for concern. Imagine this goes on for years, and then one day, your neighbor hires a landscaper and suddenly all of your complaints are gone. You don’t know why he did it, but he did. Imagine this happens, and—ostensibly—you have been given what you want, BUT, you are still very unhappy. You still don’t feel good. You still wake up in the middle of the night and pace around your yard. You still wring your hands and sit on your front porch looking anxiously at his yard. Something is still wrong. You’re still not happy. What do you do?