There are truths in life that I have come to believe we will learn one of two ways:
1. By having an open heart and mind, by being willing and able to look inside of yourself, and having the humility needed to honestly assess your own strengths, weaknesses, triggers, and history, so that when these inevitable truths come to you, you are ready to receive them.
2. By pain.
Unfortunately, I’ve had to learn many important lessons by the second means, due to personal pride, magical thinking, or ego.
Because I am deeply invested in being the best father I can be to my children—and realizing that kids learn more from how we behave than what we say—I am trying my hardest to reorient myself to receiving my lessons from the first means. It’s challenging, because we are pattern seeking animals designed to feel discomfort whenever we are forced to step outside of our own personal rituals, delusions, and thought processes.
We will all be humbled. The question is, do we embrace it, or have it forced upon us?
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